Ok. This is going to be a long comment. I am preemptively apologizing. I think it is ultra rad that you appear to be engaged with your website/blog…that is really sweet. Especially because you are an ultra rad, completely hot, totally admirable chica. Kudos for you (yes I mean the sickly granola candybar with choco chips).
I fell in love with you when I heard Grenadine. Especially the Nopalitos album. If you ever have a crush on someone, I highly suggest listening to the Nopalitos album a lot…maybe that is a recipe for disaster. Maybe you should avoid the Nopalitos album. I don’t know…but it is a crush album fo sho.
My enfatuation was furthered when I heard your solo double album with the Nashville and Chicago discs. Chicago is a place close to my heart…and the Patsy Cline track pretty much broke my heart in a zillion pieces every time I heard it. Maybe you wouldn’t expect a straight male to have that reaction…but that’s what happened. Your solo songs are rad. I like the Tsunami stuff too…but you seem like a rad chica. The kind of girl you can listen to Cure remixes in a small sized Chevy on the way to get a nasty assed two egg and hashbrown breakfast early in the morning after dancing at a skeezy club. But I digress.
So anyways. Thanks. Your musical artistry is unparrallelled in the area of awesomeness. Your tunes are super soulful.
The reason I decided to engage you with my commentary on your blogosphere (and I apologize since this is probably not the proper venue to air my commentary seeing that you are rejoicing in your sudden and possibly surprising marriage. Is that I was thinking about feminism today… and you have been mentioned as a feminist activist (whether or not that is true is beyond me…you’ve never told me your social and political philosophies before).
So…feminism…what about it?
Feminism is a scary thing for me, since I have a penis. I’ve learned from an early age, that men did a lot of things. I’m not talking about historical men, because I couldn’t give three shits about them. Likewise for historical women. Rarely in a history book do I read about the man or women that installed the pipes underneath my house which bring me water.
The things that I learned that Men do (by men I do not mean people, but I mean men) were this… men built things that we use. Men built houses. Men installed the plumbing. Men captured the criminals. Men knew the secrets of the electricity that flowed through my walls and brought my simple machines beautiful pulsations of energy and power. Men carried the refrigerator into my home…and men destroyed the dangerous creatures that dared to disrupt our homelife. Men were on the whole silly, dimwitted and a little slow when it came to social skills…an are where women seemed to be more adept. Men did the tangible and arguably more physical things…
Whereas, the women, they were more cerebral. Women kept the house sane with her lively and clever wit. The women kept the house fed with her great taste in foods and spirits. The women were more social and kept the society entertained with her graces, beautiful voice and again her clever wit. The women made improvements to the living conditions…taking a raw house and making it beautiful. The women made sure the family was fed, clothed, and happy in the more noticeable and minute ways. This is how I’ve learned to view the world that I live in.
Sure, my view is old fashioned…and doesn’t take into account the New World Order. But, increasingly, I find I don’t like the New World Order. The new world order seems to be about dollars, cents and the destruction of the soul…and I don’t want to compete in that type of contest. Maybe I have an inability to evolve…but I would prefer to work with tangible things…bricks…mortar…wires…etc.
So, my question for you…is where does feminism fit in? In high school, I considered myself a feminist, because it seemed the heady thing to do. I thought girls had gotten a bad rap (oh my, how I underestimated the women:)…and figured they needed a “fair shake”. As time goes on, I begin to realise that the ladies have had a fair shake if not more than a fair shake from the beginning of time. Am I wrong? Am I a chauvinist for suggesting such a thing? Do you hate me? I’m not trying to be a bastard, trust me, I love women…I just don’t want them to eat me.
Simply put, because I am a male, feminism scares me. I do not want to be discarded simply because women see that since all the buildings are built…all of the trash is picked up…everything is secure…tha tthey no longer need me. Where does the male fit in the feminist philosophy…or in your personal philosophy? That’s pretty much my question. Do I have reason to be afraid… or am I over rationalizing a concept that should be simple even for the dim wit that I possess. I heard you were a feminist…and like I said…you seem like a cool chica…so I figured I might ask you.
I really do appreciate your artwork…and it’s weird, because I feel a kinship to you…which might sound kind of creepy. But, I think that you are a person with whom it would be quite easy and enjoyable to delight in the wonder of a quality bottle of tasty wine. I hope you will respond to my somewhat odd and lengthy query…and I hope you don’t think I am too odd or creepy.
I have an amazing amount of respect for your work…and I appreciate it truly. These are thoughts I have a lot…but I don’t know many people in general that discuss these issues…usually we are laughing too much because I say I have 20,000 boners…and then someone else said “heh, I farted”.
Ok, WTF is that comment all about??? I thought I was creepy, but apparently not enough……… I can’t top that one, so I’ll just say Congratulations, wish you the best of luck in a divorce happy world, and I hope the dogs appreciate it……….
Keep making Music……..please!!! My other favorite DC/Baltimore area singer songwriter, Mary Prankster seems to be out of the music making market. I had lunch with her the other day in Pleasantville, New York, where she’s doing voice work, taking classes at NYU, and playing house……….. I would hate to lose the top two women in rock (whom I’ve met, anyway), to growing up and settling down…….
Thanks for the kind words and the encouragement.
Yes… the second post..it is a creepy post… but one that seems to have it’s heart in the right place. I think it’s nice that you think I might be able to help you understand feminism but, that’s not a mission that I choose to accept. If you really want to address conflicted feelings about feminism you can do so by dedicating some time towards understanding, sexism, feminism, the history of these two isms. You can do this by reading books. Backlash is a good starting point. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0385425074/102-8619593-3256912?v=glance&n=283155
Thanks for the suggestion, its next on the reading list.
Also, sorry if you felt I was patronizing or baiting you, because I truly was not, and yes, you’re correct, my heart is surprisingly in the right place.
In retrospect, I think the issue I have is with Modernism and not Feminism. I don’t even know if modernism is the right word… But I’m more interested in tactile things like buildings, food and electricity as opposed to personal power issues. I guess that’s why I’m a physical scientist and not a sociologist (or a journalist, or a human resources officer, or a buisnessman, or a salesman, etc.)
Believe it or not, your answer was exactly what I was looking for, a reading selection that wasn’t Audre Lord or Bell Hooks or any other of the amazing authors whom I’m way too dim witted to understand…I tried to understand them in college…and was always confused by them…. this book seems relatively easy to digest… and for that I thank you.
Thanks again for addressing my “creepy” query. And congratulations again with your marriage. My parents did the niagra falls thing too… apparently they had a lot of fun!
Also, thanks again for the great lounge tunes. My parents are old school jazz heads, and its great having some type of music that I can play when they visit that they are at least “somewhat” comfortable with. Why they’ve taken a liking to you but groan when I pop in Phish or Mandy Moore or Dan Bern is beyond me…
Alright, the Honeymoon HAS to be over by now…. NEW CONTENT!!!! Feed my Blog Cravings!!! I’m a selfish bastard………
You know, I have one burning question from listening to “Listening Cap”….. In the song “Drive Around” there is two strategically places Screeches in the song, one towards the beginning and one towards the end…… are these supposed to be part of the song???? OR did I get a defective CD… I bought the record at your yard sale, but never broke it out……..which I guess would be one way I Could have solved this on my own….. but why would I want to do that when I’ve got this avenue………….. anyway, I’ve always wondered that.
drdkdover, I got Listening Cap off eMusic and have the same skreetches in Drive Around — particularly frustrating because I think that’s the best cut. EMusic gave me a credit, thinking it was their fault, but now I think there was a bad batch of CDs.
Ms. Toomey: Any chance of a Tempting song or two with Calexico on Monday? I hope you’ll at least be at the show.
And congratulations on the hitching, and loved your piece in The Hill on net neutrality. Fight the power!
Ahhh, I thought they were too strategically placed…. they do add a certain effect to the song, although I wouldn’t mind having been a fly on the inside wall of his brain when he thought that one up……… Great piece on the New Orleans trip… I’ll comment more on that up yonder, later…